An open birthday letter to the girl that changed my life

Exactly 19 years ago today a freckled, red haired girl was brought into this world. Little did I know that same beautiful girl would alter my life on the day we met almost nine months ago.

As the clock strikes 12, I’ve been anticipating sending her the link to this piece so that she could open and read it. Instead of buying an overpriced card, writing a personalized letter felt right.

I fell in love with this girl very quickly. She deserves to know that, although I have told her several times. Never have I met someone as selfless and caring as her, and it didn’t take long for me to realize that she was someone I wanted to spend my time with, share my personal stories to, and let her into my heart. Little did I know, as fate would have it, we turned out to be a lot alike — almost identical — though not always in the best ways. Sometimes, the two of us struggle to consume the love we bestow to one another.

For my entire life, I’ve struggled with my confidence. It wasn’t always easy growing up in a state of mind where you’re constantly doubting yourself, but thanks to my family and friends, I’ve gotten better. My sense of pride and self-admiration has improved since the day I met the love of my life, but I’d be lying if I said it’s been completely mended. At times, it’s hard to take in the unequivocal love that she provides me.

That hasn’t stopped us from trying to break down the barriers. Unfortunately, she too has a difficult time coming to terms with the fact that people love her for who she is, and not what they expect her to be. Despite her innumerable qualities, I’ve always stressed that she needs to love herself more. This is what this letter is aimed to help do. It’s her turn to try and love herself. Minute-by-minute, hour-by-hour and day-by-day, and however long it takes.

Birthday’s are meant to represent our life and it’s usually brought on with gifts, random texts messages, wall posts from people that used to be or are still part of our lives, and celebration. While not everyone enjoys being in the spotlight during these moments (I’m looking at you, darling), it’s acceptable to delve into these romantic gestures. She made mine so special, and because she deserves the same amount of recognition and love, it’s your turn, sweet heart.

Happy Birthday to a red haired girl that has never failed to put a smile on my face.

Happy Birthday, speaking of smiles, to a girl that possesses one that can light up even the darkest of rooms.

Happy Birthday to a girl that makes every day special.

Happy Birthday to a girl who continually reminds me that there are people in this world that love me for who I am.

Happy Birthday to a girl that is genuinely funny and makes me laugh.

Happy Birthday to the girl with an incredibly loving and caring family, one that has opened their home to me, made me feel welcome, and has given me the chance I sought out for when I met their daughter. They raised a good one.

Happy Birthday to the girl that has been there for me in my worst moments. One that has never judged, but supported me when the going got tough (there’s been more than one of these).

Happy Birthday to the girl who does this amazing thing with her fingers when she fidgets as we play cards, more specifically, Euchre. Speaking of which, Happy Birthday to the best Euchre partner ever. This still only counts as one.

Happy Birthday to the girl who is always putting others before herself even when it poses an inconvenience to her own well-being.

Happy Birthday to the girl who has helped shape and made me become a better man.

Happy Birthday to the girl who always does the incredibly goofy and embarrassing acts I ask her to do in our moments of laughter.

Happy Birthday to the girl who said yes when I asked her for her number, and who said yes when I wanted to go for a coffee, even though I was the most nervous human on the face of the earth.

Happy Birthday to the girl who has loved my family as much as I do and has been willing to attend many events, stay at home to be with them and meet my extended family at Christmas.

Happy Birthday to my other half. The one that makes me whole. You see, the funny thing about meeting your other half is, you’ve gone your whole life thinking your whole, but when you meet that person you realize you’re not shit without them. Then, you can’t go on living your life because you now know what it feels like to be whole.

Happy Birthday to my person.

Happy Birthday to my best friend.

Happy Birthday to the girl who never shies away from meeting new people, including my close friends, and being her regularly amazing self when she does so.

Happy Birthday to the best daughter and sister a pair of parents and brother could ask for. She makes them endlessly proud and I can tell every time I am in their presence.

Last one.

Happy Birthday to my soul mate; the individual that I knew was out there, but wasn’t sure when I would meet them. The girl that caught my attention the day I saw her at her place of work. The girl who, lucky for me, turned out to be the most genuine soul I’ve ever met.

She has left a mark a permanent mark in my heart that has her initials on it, and it’s not going away anytime soon.

This girl is going to be part of my life for a very long time and this letter isn’t going to be the last. It’s us against the world, babe, and I’ll be here for all of it.

I love you.



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